Mason ยท 8 months old ยท about 2 months ago
Partner doesn't help with night wakings
I do every single night waking because my husband 'has to work in the morning.' I work from home but I'm still WORKING. We've talked about it but nothing changes. How do you split night duties fairly? Am I being unreasonable to expect help?
You're absolutely not being unreasonable. Working from home IS working, and chronic sleep deprivation affects your ability to function and your mental health. Some fair approaches couples use: alternating nights completely, splitting the night into shifts (10pm-2am / 2am-6am), one parent handles weeknights and the other handles weekends, or whoever didn't do the last waking does the next. It might help to have this conversation during the day (not at 3am!), frame it around 'we need to solve this together,' and be specific about what you need. If conversations aren't working, consider couples counseling - a neutral third party can help. Your needs matter too.
Always consult your pediatrician for medical advice.